Monday, April 20, 2009
Dumb Mistake #6- "Not Realizing God's Kingdom is Bigger than You (and your Ministry)
Are you building God's kingdom or yours? Sometimes, that is a tough and uncomfortable question to answer honestly. Each of us is responsible to his or her employer. But if God has called you to college ministry, he has called you to build His kingdom--not just your campus or church ministry.
Do you think about what is best for college ministry as a whole or just yours? What have you done lately that helps--not hurts---other ministries to college students?
No particular ministry is a fit for every student. So if you are "the big show" on your campus or in your town, how can you benefit others who might touch students you would never reach? What can you do to help college ministry in your whole state or nationally? You might be surprised!
# 7: “Not Loving College Students”
But, is your love conditional? Do you love them whether or not they participate in your ministry or always do right?
College students sometimes act selfish, immature and disloyal. One of our fine arts teams had been in a church one weekend. After they had returned, I heard thru the grapevine that they had been a little hard to deal with—especially with the man who had done the sound. I got his number and called to apologize.
He was wonderful. He said, “Hey, they’re college kids and I don’t expect them to have it all together yet. I didn’t act just right when I was their age.”
Wow! The guy had never been to Seminary and he knew a lot about doing college ministry. There is a student that my wife and I had in our home and fed meals to. A year or so later he dropped out of our ministry and when I would see him on campus he would not speak to me or pretend he did not see me. I had to remind myself he still needed me to love him.
Yesterday was a very busy day in our office. Reports were due. A big newsletter was in process and behind on assembly, a grad student involved some with our program came in alarmed. She was flying to her home for a long holiday weekend. The student who was to drive her 75 miles to the airport had called with a lame excuse. One of us remembered that our job is to love college students and dropped everything to drive her to the airport.
Are you doing your ministry or are you also loving college students in spite of them?
#8 "Trying To Go it Alone"
# 9 “Trying to make your students just like you”
This is such a subtle temptation that we sometimes don’t realize we are doing it. And anyway, what’s wrong with it---given that all college ministers are spectacular creations of God.
Have you ever noticed that most students go to the seminary from which their college minister graduated or currently favors? This is an example of how we tend to shape our students to our mold without realizing it. One of the basic teachings of scripture is the idea that we are made differently and God wants to use us differently.
Are you limiting your ministry to those who want to be just like you?
When you meet with individuals to train or disciple them, do you stick to a list of things you want to teach them, or do they get to talk about their issues and needs?
Look around your ministry. How similar are your students in thought, style and gifts? Could it be that YOU are the problem?
#10 "Not Defining Success"
This is such a subtle temptation that we sometimes don’t realize we are doing it. And anyway, what’s wrong with it---given that all college ministers are spectacular creations of God.
Have you ever noticed that most students go to the seminary from which their college minister graduated or currently favors? This is an example of how we tend to shape our students to our mold without realizing it. One of the basic teachings of scripture is the idea that we are made differently and God wants to use us differently.
Are you limiting your ministry to those who want to be just like you?
When you meet with individuals to train or disciple them, do you stick to a list of things you want to teach them, or do they get to talk about their issues and needs?
Look around your ministry. How similar are your students in thought, style and gifts? Could it be that YOU are the problem?